What do you do when misunderstandings creep in? When without realising you start hurting a person, all the time assuming that you were meaning well for the person?? How do you figure out when a person is getting hurt?

And once misunderstandings creep in can you make it all go away? Or would you always have a feeling of mistrust? and the relationship never goes back to what it was....

I always get scared by fights... I try and run away from it so much... as a result many dont know what bothers me and when I tell them, they are really concerned about how that escaped them...and sometimes things have gone so bad that the relationship takes a tumble... thats the thing with misunderstandings.... you just dont understand....

Are there any relationships without their fair shares of misunderstandings? in an effort to maintain the peace is it advisable to always bend over backwards? and pretend that there is nothing wrong? does that help a relationship? or break it eventually?

I have no answers...