what do you value the most in a person (personally and professionally)?

For me the most important thing is simplicity... no fuss, complications, angst... just simple... added to that is the requirement to have a person with integrity...

rest I think I can deal with in some measure... except anger and violence...

what do you do when a precious and long term relationship turns difficult or sour... and you just cant seem to relate to each other anymore but both have care and concern for each other... what do you do? you are unhappy, they are left feeling sad that they are making you unhappy.... what is left to do now...

Wait and ride out the storm?? everyone says that......

Really Shreeshanth can get all those women hovering around him only cos of cricket??? Cricket was invented by God to be a babe magnet for ugly men I can see....sorry fellow keralite, I seriously dont have much respect for you...

 

I saw the movie Ashiqui 2 over the weekend...and I have to say that the movie was nothing to write home about.... amateur acting and really tried and tested story.... what was however amazing was that this story was about romance.... and in my view there was nothing but torture in the movie...

the story is very simple... a successful alcholic singer discovers poor, cant feed her parents, girls and gives her the opportunity that you dream of... the girl becomes successful and the boy and girl fall in love... and then the boy develops a complex (not sure what it is about) and starts drinking uncontrollably ... and the girl is left feeling completely lost as to what she did wrong... even on the awards night, he drives past her and doesnot wish her at all... and she runs after him like a puppy dog to see what she can do to help him!!! and he then reforms himself for a while and supports the girl... only to spiral out of control when someone tempts him with a bottle and accuses him of having sexual relations with the girl!!! Seriously???? This is modern India and having sex is not taboo anymore people!!!

The girl goes into a tizzy trying to control his drinking... and even endures him throwing her out of his house... and she sits outside his door and says "I love you!"... yeah, thats one thumps up for womens right.. get beaten and say that to your boyfriend immediately.... she cries, she loses sleeps etc trying to get him to be better... and at one point sacrifices her career for him... she reneges on all contracts just to be with her man ... and even tells her agent that for her "love is more important than career"... I half had the heart to ask her "will you eat love when you are hungry?? Woman, dont you remember you could not even afford to buy rice before your career started".... the agent also tries telling her that she should not waste her life with a drunkard and she shoudl take care of her career... and she refuses to leave his side...

the only redeeming part of the story is that the man realises that he is actually an impediment on her and her success....and commits suicide!!! At which point I felt like screaming out "dude, you did all this drama only to commit suicide???"...... but the important thing is that she was set free by his suicide....

This story is the story of innumerable women in the world... who are with incompetent men and who feel guilty about being so ... and show men that they will adjust and be inferior to them... and take all the stress of being with him in the hope of getting him to be happy... Women are the caregivers... and they care enough to support the man and see him through the worst.... all for what??? to be with the morose, incompetent, insecure, spineless man ? in the process losing all the definition of self that the woman held till she married this man...